Episode 325: "Why Can't I Remember Anything?" Understanding ADHD, Working Memory & Mental Load with Sarah Rudebeck
I'm sure you relate to recalling an entire conversation from months ago or even song lyrics from the 80s, but forgetting why you walked into a room thirty seconds ago?
On this week's episode of The ADHD Women's Wellbeing Podcast, I'm joined by Dr Sarah Rudebeck, a clinical psychologist with a PhD in memory from the University of Oxford.
Sarah specialises in working memory and executive function difficulties in adults, and is the co-founder of Recallify, an AI companion for memory support. She works clinically in the NHS, with a particular interest in bridging the gap between what research tells us about memory and what people are actually offered in terms of help.
In this episode, we talk about the difference between memories that are simply hard to retrieve under pressure and genuine working memory difficulties, why so many ADHD adults share a similar cognitive profile of strong intellectual ability alongside weaker working memory and attention, and why working memory cannot be trained like a muscle, no matter how many crosswords or brain games we try. We also get into the practical side, from school admin and parenting reminders to household overwhelm and overbuying, and how Sarah's own frustration with the gap between research and everyday support led her to co-found Recallify.
In this episode, we cover:
The difference between memories that are "in there" and memories you can retrieve under pressure
What working memory actually is, and how it differs from attention, executive function and long-term memory
The common ADHD cognitive profile: strong intellectual ability alongside weaker working memory and processing speed
What happens during a neuropsychological assessment, and what it reveals about your own pattern of strengths and difficulties
Why working memory cannot be trained like a muscle, and what the research on brain training actually shows
How hormonal changes in midlife can affect word retrieval and confidence
Where working memory difficulties show up day to day, from school admin to household overwhelm
Why so many of us overbuy and overcompensate rather than under-organise
Sarah's own experience of dyslexia and learning to lean on her strengths
How Recallify came about, and how its brain dump and task features work
Timestamps:
00:00 - Welcome, and introducing Dr Sarah Rudebeck
01:23 - Sarah's background and her work in the NHS
02:43 - Why memory can feel reliable in conversation but fail under pressure
05:50 - What working memory actually is
08:36 - What happens during a neuropsychological assessment
12:21 - How working memory difficulties show up in children at school
14:41 - Why working memory cannot be trained like a muscle
19:44 - Everyday examples: parenting, school admin and household overwhelm
24:38 - Why so many of us overbuy rather than under-organise
29:31 - Using your strengths to work around your weaknesses
32:01 - How the gap in NHS support led Sarah to create Recallify
46:33 - Sarah's free trial offer for listeners
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Links and Resources:
Find my popular ADHD workshops and resources on my website [here].
Follow the podcast on Instagram: @adhd_womenswellbeing_pod
Visit Recallify's website: recallify.ai
Connect with Recallify on Instagram: instagram.com/recallify.ai, Facebook and LinkedIn
Email Sarah's team for a free one-month trial of Recallify; each voucher is unique so you'll need to get in touch directly: info@recallify.ai
Kate Moryoussef is a women's ADHD lifestyle and wellbeing coach and EFT practitioner who helps overwhelmed and unfulfilled newly diagnosed women with ADHD find more calm, balance, hope, health, compassion, creativity, and clarity.