In today’s episode of The ADHD Women’s Wellbeing Podcast, I sit down with Amy Marie Hann, author of Master the Mundane: How to Manage Your Life, Home and Family as a Mom with ADHD.
And this conversation is for anyone who can do really big, complicated, creative things… but still feels completely floored by the dishwasher, laundry, meals, forms, life admin and all the tiny repetitive jobs that somehow never stop coming.
Amy was diagnosed with ADHD at just five years old, and ADHD runs through her whole family. But even with that early diagnosis, medication and years of understanding her brain, adulthood still brought a whole new layer of challenges.
The mental load. The overwhelm. The pressure to keep everything running. The feeling that everyone else seems to be managing it better.
Then perimenopause hit, and everything got harder.
We talk about why so many ADHD women swing between over-functioning and burnout, why complicated productivity systems rarely stick, and why the answer might not be becoming more organised or disciplined at all.
Amy shares how she learned to simplify, work with her actual capacity and focus on the small number of boring-but-important things that keep life moving.
This is a very practical conversation, but it’s also such a compassionate one.
Because if you’ve ever looked around your house, your to-do list or your family life and thought, Why can’t I just keep on top of this? — there is absolutely nothing wrong with you.
You may just be trying to carry far too much.
In this episode, we cover:
Being diagnosed with ADHD at five, and what Amy understood — and didn’t understand — about ADHD growing up
Why medication helped with school and focus but didn’t teach the life skills needed for adulthood
How perimenopause can intensify ADHD symptoms, even when you already understand your diagnosis
ADHD medication alongside sleep, exercise, lifestyle support and practical strategies
Losing confidence in your abilities and choosing an “easier” path because of ADHD
Finding the ADHD “sweet spot” between intense challenge, boredom and burnout
Why ADHD brains may need meaningful challenge without an unsustainable pace
Building work and a life around your energy instead of expecting eight-hour-a-day productivity
Why ADHD mothers carry such a heavy mental load
Unrealistic expectations, perfectionism and the feeling of never doing enough
Why everything can feel urgent when prioritisation is difficult
The cycle of long to-do lists, overdoing it and burnout
Applying compassionate parenting strategies to yourself
Amy’s “taxing tasks” approach and identifying the boring things that genuinely matter
Why new planners and complicated systems often work temporarily because novelty is doing the heavy lifting
Reducing daily executive-function demands by making basic routines repeatable
Defining “good enough” instead of aiming for a perfectly organised home
Why understanding your capacity matters more than copying someone else’s routine
Simplifying when outsourcing isn’t financially realistic
ADHD, motherhood and the shame attached to domestic expectations
Sharing the load with partners and finding the household tasks that suit each person
The power of ADHD women finding spaces where they can ask honest questions without shame
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Timestamps:
00:00 - Welcome and introducing Amy Marie Hann
02:00 - Being diagnosed with ADHD at five
03:00 - What an early diagnosis did — and didn’t — explain
04:00 - ADHD, adulthood and perimenopause
05:00 - Medication, school and self-belief
08:00 - Medication, lifestyle and practical strategies
09:30 - Finding the right pace for an ADHD brain
10:30 - The cycle of challenging work, boredom and burnout
11:30 - Finding your ADHD sweet spot
13:00 - Trying different paths and discovering what fits
15:00 - Building work around your actual energy
16:00 - Why your best work may not require eight-hour days
17:00 - Finding something you can stay interested in
18:00 - ADHD, organisation and the myth that every ADHD woman looks the same
20:00 - Perfectionism, over-functioning and coping behaviours
21:00 - The mental load of ADHD motherhood
22:00 - Unrealistic expectations and the endless to-do list
23:00 - Parenting yourself with more compassion
24:00 - The six or seven boring things that matter
25:00 - Why complicated systems fail
26:00 - Executive-function energy and removing daily decisions
27:00 - Amy’s three daily “taxing tasks”
28:00 - Working full-time, parenting and the pressure to do everything
29:00 - Self-care, capacity and realistic expectations
30:00 - Letting things go and simplifying
31:00 - Replacing shame with “good enough”
32:00 - Domestic expectations and ADHD women
33:00 - Sharing household responsibilities
34:00 - Knowing your capacity before dividing the load
36:00 - Master the Mundane and Amy’s practical framework
37:00 - Coaching, body doubling and accountability
39:00 - Why ADHD community can reduce shame
41:00 - Where to find Amy and her work
Links and Resources:
Find my popular ADHD Women’s Wellbeing workshops and resources on my website here.
Follow the podcast on Instagram: @adhd_womenswellbeing_pod
Get my book, The ADHD Women’s Wellbeing Toolkit (also available in ebook and audiobook) here
Join the More Yourself membership community here
Visit Amy’s website: amymariehann.com
Follow Amy on Instagram: @amymariehann
Get Amy’s free resource, Thriving in Motherhood, here
Find Amy’s book, Master the Mundane: How to Manage Your Life, Home and Family as a Mom with ADHD.
Kate Moryoussef is a women's ADHD lifestyle and wellbeing author, coach and EFT practitioner who helps overwhelmed and unfulfilled newly diagnosed women with ADHD find more calm, balance, hope, health, compassion, creativity and clarity.